The other week, I was reading an article written by a prominent celebrity. They made the comment that they used to believe that if they just got past the insecurity that you deal with while breaking into Hollywood as a young star, that they would get to the other side and not have to deal with a lack of confidence anymore. That once they “made it” it would be over. They honestly admitted that they still struggled deeply with insecurities and that there was not some magical light at the end of the tunnel of insecurity.
It made me think about how important it is to develop a self-confidence strategy so that you can consistently rely on your own strength rather than outside circumstances in order to be confident.
The ability to rely on your own strength is a powerful piece of your foundation as a human being.
It will allow you to deal with the arrows that life throws at you and you will inspire people around you.
Your confidence strategy should start at the beginning of your week. You need to start your week speaking into yourself those things that will feed you and put faith into yourself. By being proactive about building your confidence, you will be able to stand up to your weaknesses when they arise.
If you want to become better at public speaking, but you do not strategize how you are going to do this, your weakness will end up winning. But, if you tell yourself consistently: “I am a great public speaker, I am going to take steps to help myself to get better,” when an opportunity arises, you are more likely to take advantage of the opportunity because you have already spoken that confidence into yourself.
Think about how much during your day that a lack of confidence has stopped you.
Think about how many excuses you have made in order to cover up your lack of confidence.
You have to go after your insecurities proactively.
Speak to yourself daily in the mirror. Build yourself up intentionally every single day. Start to tell yourself a different story about yourself. You are a dreamer. You are bold. You are an amazing mother. You are a selfless, loving person. You are a doer. You are capable of greatness.
When I knew I wanted to become a great public speaker, I went after it wholeheartedly. I made myself speak in front of a group of educators. They did not ask me to, but I knew that I wanted to work on my confidence as a speaker, so I asked them if I could say something.
Earlier that day, I put a penny that I found in the parking lot in my pocket that would remind me of the great, fearless leaders like Lincoln that have gone before me and all that they overcame. It reminded me that if they could walk through all of the battles and the fears that they overcame, that I could stand up and speak in front of a group of educators. This may seem silly to everyone else, but it give me confidence within my weakness. I could feel it or see it on the podium when talking, and it was my reminder of the greatness that is within me.
Find ways to be proactive in becoming a more confident person.
Don’t be reactionary to your insecurity, be prepared to overcome it.
Write down qualities that describe what that confident you looks like. Envision what you would be like if you were not insecure in an area of your life. Write those qualities down so that in moments of weakness, you can look back on what you envisioned and you can tell yourself that you can do it.
You have the ability to achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve during your life, but you have to develop a strategy to increase your confidence in who you are. You cannot help anybody if you are not confident in who you are. People are inspired by those who are bold.
Remember that you can be bold. You can be great. Your dreams matter. You deserve to be here.